Hi friends, how are you? I was down and out with a bad cold. I apologize for this letter being a day late. So Valentine's day is around the corner. Are you the couple who makes reservations in a nice restaurant in advance? You stay home and watch a movie? You give each other a card and a gift? You go about your day and forget about valentine's? Did you know that all these are OK? Whatever season you are in and whatever you feel good about, that's the way you address Valentine's. Here's a head's up, especially for the women out there: What are your expectations? Stop for a moment and get clear on those. Now, with expectations come disappointments, right? Especially if your partner doesn't know your expectations. Have you voiced them? Does he know? How in the world is he supposed to fulfill them if he doesn't have a clue? If you are expecting a gift, say so. If you don't care that you celebrate or not, say so. If you want a card, say so. here's another thought: Let's say you really think it's important to eat out in a nice restaurant. What is keeping you from making reservations and getting a babysitter? Just make sure it's on your spouses calendar :) What I'm saying is, you can plan your day any way you want. Just make sure that there are no unspoken expectations that lead to disappointment. How do I know you ask??? well, I was the one who thought the wife should get a card and a gift. And when hubby forgot I was disapointed. Now mind you, we've been married 29 years and people change. I can assure you your day will go a lot smoother if you plan it and communicate about it. Or don't expect anything at all, and just know that whatever happens, you are sure in his love for you. We usually go out sometime around valentine's day. When the restaurants are not over crowded. As Tony Robins says: "Exchange your expectations with appreciation." Have fun planning, or just ignoring the day all together. Whatever feels right to you. PS: Message me for a free consult to start exchanging your expectations with appreciation.
You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.
Until next time, Isabelle Call or write for a free life coaching consultation #732-331-2246 Isabellestephensoncoach@gmail.com
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