Hi Friends, Did you practice letting your e-motion flow through your body? It is so healthy. Congrats, if you did. Today I need to touch on the importance of rejoicing when others succeed. I mean, authentically rejoicing…not because you are expected to, or because it's society’s norm (it isn't), or because you feel guilty if you don't. There are exceptions of course. For the sake of time, let's just focus on why it's a good idea to celebrate someone's success. Put yourself in their shoes for a moment.
Maybe a coworker got a raise.
A sibling won in a sports event.
A friend succeeds in her business.
A friend or relative has an "easy" child.
Someone has found the perfect partner.
Someone win's in a raffle or gift give away. (Watch my reel on insta about my daughter winning a grand prize.)
A friend or relative is debt free.
Someone is celebrating a birthday in a big extravagant way.
A friend took a dream vacation.
Your best friend moved into their dream home.
Someone is employee of the year.
A friend had a baby.
A friend reunited with a long lost relative.
Someone inherited a substantial amount of money.
A friend got hired for a good job.
Someone got a promotion.
A friend or a friend's child graduated.
Someone close to you is getting married.
A friend has a grandbaby.
Now, if you were that someone, wouldn't you want others to celebrate you and with you? If yes, can you bring yourself to a place to authentically celebrate this person and his/her success? Why? Because it makes them AND you feel good. "But I don't always feel happy for someone who succeeds," you say. I get it. I have found myself in many situations like that, where I scratch my head and wonder if they even know how good they really have it? It puzzles me, that people say things so nonchalantly without sometimes realizing what a blessing that is. You think to yourself: "If they even knew how much I crave..." whatever it is they are having. And they might never know. So, let me ask you again. Can you get to a place where you are grateful for their success (deserved or not, hard worked for or not) and then take it a step further and celebrate them? This can go under the universal law of reciprocity. Reciprocity is when someone does something for you, and you want to reciprocate or do something in return for them. Or vice versa. You can also call it karma, or the law of seed and harvest. You sew into them and life/God rewards you manifold. It sounds good doesn't it? It makes sense in nature. You sew one small seed and harvest fruit manifold. It's the same in life. That’s why I want to write about it today. Not because it’s easy in the moment. Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. If you, for example, want to get pregnant and your siblings and friend already have babies, and you tried everything, it is NOT easy to rejoice with them. If your relationship is falling apart and someone is celebrating a happy anniversary, then that is not easy. If you struggle with one or more children and they are distant, and someone has a deeply connected relationship with their child, then that can be more of a trigger than a cause of celebration. And yet, it is possible, and it is good for you. Of course, as always, I want you to feel whatever e-motion comes up first, process it and clear it and then, get into the mind and heart set of celebrating with that person. Terri Savelle Foy for example, couldn't become pregnant and was devastated. Everyone around her had babies. She came to a point where she said “enough”and decided to bless the new moms with gifts and poured into their lives. She then ended up receiving her own longed for baby. Is this a magic formula? No, by no means. But, does it make sense? You pour into others and when you need their support, they pour into you. Thank goodness I was blessed to experience this phenomena. Now mind you, the support might not come from the people you might expect it from. God and life and the universe are much more creative than that! Are you willing to try it? You have noticed that I wrote about the times when it is not easy or second nature to celebrate someone. If it were easy, it wouldn't be worth writing about. Give and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Disclaimer: This does not apply if you are dealing with an abusive person. There are different strategies for that. A new affirmation might be: I am learning to celebrate other's successes. Please, as always, contact me if you need help with any of these strategies. My clients have tackled quite a few difficult situations with my guidance. And so can you. And then, lets celebrate! PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.
You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure. Until next time,
Isabelle Call or write for a free life coaching consultation #732-331-2246 Isabellestephensoncoach@gmail.com
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