Hi Friends, I hope you implemented a bit more self care. Just remember the sunflower analogy and be on your way. As always, thank you for your kind feedback! Today, I want to share something that is so important and has happened to you before, guaranteed. The power of me too. I do not mean the Me Too movement, even though that is one area in which we saw the power of these two little words: me too. Have you ever been in a conversation with a friend, walking along a path, as portrayed in the picture above, and you shared a vulnerable part of your life?Maybe you were sitting at a park bench, watching your kids play, or you met at a coffee shop and sat at a table. Maybe you met at your dining room table and had a cup of tea together. I have shared some of those moments with you on my grief journey after losing my brother. Those "me too's" meant the world to me. I happen to be an HSP as are 20 percent of the population; a highly sensitive person. Our nervous system is literally/ physiologically wired differently. If you have ever been called too sensitive, you might be one of them. Here is a link to a TED talk where more explanation is given about HSP's: https://youtu.be/pi4JOlMSWjo?si=5PB0e2BDkHXifd9c When you are feeling like the odd one, or the misunderstood one, and a friend truthfully and honestly says, "Me too. That's how I feel. I have experienced that." Then you understand how good that feels. Someone gets it. Someone gets me. It's not that we want others to have gone through the same hardships, but boy, knowing that they have, just connects you on a whole new level. So I challenge you to say, "me too". Our ego usually wants to "one up" the other's experience and share our story. We have all done that. Be mindful of that and train yourself to say things like:
I hear you
I get it
That hurts
Me too
That's hard
What do you need right now?
They are simple words, not easy, unless you have trained yourself to be present and mindful.
Sometimes a friend might not be available. And maybe just then you read a social media post that speaks to you that says, "I hear you. I have been there. Me too." That can be powerful too. My social media feed happens to be very encouraging, also, funny and inspirational, sometimes educational. Those are the channels I choose. I am by no means asking you to say me too, if you do not know what the other person has gone through. Neither do I encourage you to overshare your story. That might overwhelm someone who is listening. Deeper sharing comes with time, when a base of trust has been established.
The two most powerful words when we are in struggle: me too.
Brene Brown
Who has not wanted to be understood? Heard? Validated? Be the one who is vulnerable enough to share. Sometimes others just don't know. That has happened to me so often. Had I not shared a story from my life, the other would have never known and never had the chance to say: me too. Be the sharer, be the responder. Be both. Be there. In the moment. If you need help with that, write to me so we can set up a call.
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You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.
Until next time,
Isabelle
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